Real Life 50 Shades? Review of The Diary of a Submissive by Sophie Morgan.

I am sure you all remember Sophie Morgan’s guest post from the other week ranting, very gracfully I might add, about a certain book. *aherm* I knew from reading ‘Six Reasons Fifty Shades of Grey isn’t true to life‘ that I was going to love her book, The Diary of a Submissive. I was very excited when it dropped through my door. It’s a good, chunky book (love’em big I do!) and the cover is classically kinky. The burb promises much, too. Check it out:

Sophie Morgan is an independent woman in her thirties with a successful journalism career. Intelligent, witty and sarcastic, she could be the girl next door. Except that Sophie is a submissive; in the bedroom she likes to relinquish her power and personal freedom to a dominant man for their mutual pleasure. In the wake of Fifty Shades of Grey, here is a memoir that offers the real story of what it means to be a submissive. From the endorphin rush of her first encounter right through to punishments the likes of which she couldn’t begin to imagine, she explains in frank and explicit fashion the road she travels. But it isn’t until she meets James that her boundaries are really pushed. As her relationship with him travels into darker and darker places the question becomes: where will it end? Can she reconcile her sexuality with the rest of her life and is it possible for the perfect man to also be perfectly cruel? Racy, controversial, but always warm, fun and astoundingly honest this is a fascinating and thought provoking look at a seemingly paradoxical side to human nature and sexuality that no man or woman will be able to put down.


I also got the press release which included this snippet from Sophie herself:

“I’ve always loved erotic fiction that I could relate to. But while Fifty Shades of Grey has encouraged thousands of women to spice up their love lives and talk honestly about their fantasies and things they want to try – which can only be a positive thing – the book has done little to remove the misconception that submissives are doormats or throwbacks to a pre-feminist age. The portrayal of Anastasia’s experiences as a submissive woman is pure fantasy. I wanted to show people what it’s actually like to be a submissive in the real world, and not just because, like most sensible women, I’d get Silence of the Lambs flashbacks if a strange man offered to show me his red room of pain.”

And I realise she’s on the same wavelength as me. We’ve chatted a bit via twitter, you should send her a tweet @mssophiemorgan, she’s lovely. By this point she’s going to be sweating bullets to I better get on with my review to put her out of her misery, though she does like pain so maybe…no, I’m not that cruel.

The Diary of a Submissive is a compelling read. I read it in just two days and would have read it in one sitting if I didn’t have my own books to write and promote and do! The diary format makes it easy to read, I like how she starts at the beginning, right there in her childhood and didn’t jump straight into the hardcore stuff. I know it’s a great device to pull readers in but I think Sophie’s straight forward timeline and build up to the hard stuff works really well.

If you’re expecting helicopters, red rooms of pain and lip biting, you’re going to be disappointed. If you’re expecting something fantastical and sweetly romantic then you need to look elsewhere. This is a diary, it’s full of real emotion, real happenings and a lot of pain.

Now, I like a bit of BDSM but I paddle in the shallow end of the pain pool. A light spanking, a bit of bondage and some shockingly rude dirty talk is about my level. It’s what I write, it’s what I like. Sophie describes in vivid detail some very thorough beatings, some seriously degrading humiliation and pain, lots and lots of pain that ends in brusies, welts and marks.

I think you need to know this before you embark on your read. But you know what? It is so well written, you’re given so much insider knowledge about how Sophie feels that it doesn’t seem excessive or shocking. Certainly some of the rougher stuff didn’t turn me on, I don’t think it’s meant to per se, it’s more an explanation of why it turns her on. How it turns her on. It’s not a how to manual or a work of fiction to tease and tantalise. It’s real. That’s the heart of it’s appeal.

It’s the depth of emotion that really makes this stand out from other books featuring BDSM. Yes, the kink is prominent but instead of a story thrown in around the sex scenes as often happens in erotica, this is a story that has kinky sex scenes woven intrinsically into it.

A great book that will make you think as well as entertain you. I am sure you won’t be able to put this one down!

The ebook of The Diary of a Submissive by Sophie Morgan is available to buy from and from and will be published on 30th August 2012 as a paperback.