Kinky To Do List 2020 #MasturbationMonday

The New Year is a time to look forward to what might be coming (oo er) and can be a good time to think about aims and desires. As I do love a list and I am looking to do much more of all things sexy and kinky this year, I wrote a to do list.

1. Restraints.


I’ve had some fun with restraints of all kinds and I really want more but other things seem to distract me some how!

  • Rope – I wanna be tied up all pretty like, I wanna be tied up and for it to hurt (I like that) I want to be tied up and tortured. I’ve had all these things in moderation and I just want more. Please.
  • Chains. I love chains but so rarely get to play with them. I want them to bind me and hurt me and jingle and all that good stuff.
  • Other restraints, cuffs etc used during other play.
  • 2. Multiple Meanies


    AKA group scenes. I always love being the centre of attention for a group of meanies. I didn’t get a huge amount of this in 2019 and feel there needs to be more,just lots and lots more. Especially if whips are involved. Like when three sadists whipped me in a sneak attack and when three other sadists whipped me in front of the St Andrews Cross

    3. Primal play


    I discovered a real love for this last year, thanks to H. Check out Vibrations to s I am fantastic prey, even if I do say so myself. Biting, scratching, beating and restraining just simply body to body is intoxicating. I don’t really fight back overly much, I don’t think…but who knows what could happen?

    4. Gay things.


    I know this isn’t a kink and it definitely isn’t just a thing to do. But since I’ve discovered my queerness, I’ve wanted to do more things with girlies and enbies and all peoples really. Mean or not, sexy or kinky, if it’s not straight I want to have a go! I am eager, but also nervous. Hell, I’ve known I’ve fancied men all my life and I’m still quite shit at expressing it. I’ve got a lot of catching up to do when it comes to all the other genders!

    5. Humiliation


    This really presses my buttons in some serious ways.  See an example here of how much.I love it and definitely want heapings more. I have very specific needs around this kind of play though. I don’t want to be made to feel stupid or to feel like I have upset someone or done anything wrong. That hurts me a lot. But I enjoy being told how dirty and slutty I am and love to be instructed to do things to show that off.

    6. Sensation play


    As a pain slut I often get swept away in my search for pain but I’d love to try more kinds of sensation play. Massage, wax candles, tickling (I am very ticklish and love being tickled) scratchy things, temperature play, those kinds of things.

    7. Orgasm control


    I wrote a very unsubtle hint to H last year about an orgasm control scene I wanted and then I wrote about how they very much came through on that and yes. I want more of this kind of thing please. More orgasms than I can process after being denied any at all for a while…unfgh.

    8. The Unusual


    I want to try things that are curious and rare and if they’re cruel and painful at the same time then even better! My author brain especially craves brand new experiences, as I love the challenge of capturing experiences in words.

    9. Knife and fear play.


    Found out I have a very visceral reaction to knives, be they big, impactful meat cleavers, or delicate initial carving blades. 

    10. Breath play


    This one feels a bit ironic right now as I struggle with a worsening of my asthma, but breath play is hot and gives me such a visceral high so quickly, I love it. My first experience had me craving more.

    11. Exhibitionisim/objectification


    I’m an exhibitionist but with a very shy streak. Yes, you see me streaking round BDSM clubs without a thought in the world, but that’s just…normal. I want to be put on display, for people to watch. To have wickedly wonderful kinky, sexy things done to me as people watch and I really need someone/someones who would feel comfortable co-ordinating this kind of scene so I can let go of my multiple anxieties and just obey the tops instructions.

    So there we go, my to do list for the year, I’ve contacted a few people directly and have had some exciting responses already. Hopefully I’ll be telling you about me ticking items off my list soon!