10th May 2011 - Guest Blogs - 17 Comments

Lori Toland: The Trials of writing M/M Romance and the Joys.

Please welcome Lori Toland here today as part of her Goddess Fish Blog tour! Don’t forget to leave a comment as you could win a $25 gift card from Amazon, B&N or Loose Id and a copy of her book

The trials of writing m/m romance and the joys

I love writing gay romance. For me, there is nothing more beautiful than falling in love, especially between two men. The hardest part is outside my immediate family and my best friend, no one even knows I write.

So when my first book came out, I didn’t really have anyone outside my family and my friend to share it with. And while my family is supportive, no one reads romance (except for my little sister who is 17 and is NOT allowed to read my books yet) so it didn’t really matter to them.

So I’ve built an online group of friends I can chat and have fun with and they are really awesome. I love the authors I’ve made friends with online and in person. And I could go on and on about the joys of writing m/m. I love writing sex and my characters are forever encouraging me to indulge writing them having sex.

I also love the moment when the couple (or threesome) realizes this is the person they have to be with. They’re in love and birds are singing. Okay, maybe I’m getting too fairytale-ish but that’s what I like to write. Cute, sexy man meets his Prince Charming.

Love isn’t always a fantasy but sometimes we have that day we take with us for the rest of our lives, through the heartache of our lives. For Tristan, that moment was when Jamie kissed him for the first time on that hot August day. And ten years later, he has the chance to fall in love again. Is he up to letting his heart go one more time?

Thank you, Victoria, for having me by! And I hope you all enjoy it.


Trust in Me

When Tristan takes over for a sick employee, he runs into an old high school crush. Ten years after a summer fling with Jamie, left him with a broken heart, Tristan’s got a different view of it; will he push away the only man he’s ever loved?


I found it sad and horrible this was all my life boiled down to. At the end of all of it, I was trying to feel what I had felt when I looked at him. The anger bubbling up within me was simply the pain of being rejected that next morning.

I didn’t say a word to the provocation. I just finished my toast, which created a lump in my throat. I charged the bill to my room and then stood up. I took two steps, then leaned down so only he would hear me. “I don’t know if you are a closet case or what, but you don’t have to worry about me outing you. I’ll be your dirty little secret.” I took a deep breath to steady my voice. “Let’s just treat each other with some sort of civility.”

I couldn’t wait around for his agreement, because the way he looked up at me, those blue eyes of his wide and his lips parted, was driving me to the brink of insanity. I wanted to kiss him until I was drowning again. It took every ounce of strength to turn and walk away.

CEO by day, erotic romance writer by night, Lori Toland lives in Orlando where the summers are hot but the romance between her characters is even hotter. Writing since the tender age of 13, Lori somehow finds time to play video games and watch movies while taking care of her beloved cats and a husband who will forever be her hero.




17 responses to “Lori Toland: The Trials of writing M/M Romance and the Joys.”

  1. Mitnik says:

    Ahhh, Love.. The Many Splendid thing, the almost impossible dream.. When you do find it, you wouldn’t give it up for the world.. and yes it can be a little too fairytale for those on the outside sometimes..

    Haveto agree it’s great to have that online support group when you are doing something like that that doesn’t quite catch the imagination of those around you.

    Anyways, best of luck with this.. and future quests ;)

  2. Seira says:


    “I also love the moment when the couple (or threesome) realizes this is the person they have to be with. They’re in love and birds are singing. Okay, maybe I’m getting too fairytale-ish but that’s what I like to write. Cute, sexy man meets his Prince Charming.”

    For some it’s more than just birds singing…lol. In Italy it is often referred to as the
    “thunderbolt” – that intense flash of desire that inflames your heart and well…often other of parts of your body too. Capturing that moment, however it manifests is something we all love to read.

  3. Pia Veleno says:

    Hi Lori!

    I’m in the same boat — Mom reads my books, while others around me know I write, but don’t get details. I work for a company that’s much too conservative to let rumors (or truths) run rampant.

    Thank the gods for the internet. ;-)

  4. Gale Stanley says:

    Great post! I also write MM. It’s no secret. My family always knew, some read it, some don’t. Since I retired from the day job, everyone knows what I write. Love is a beautiful thing – in every way.

  5. Julie Hayes says:

    In a perfect world, we wouldn’t have to hide what we do, or face censure because of it. In a perfect world, people could marry whom they wanted, and no one would worry about what went on in their bedroon.

    Alas, this is not a perfect world, but hopefully someday it will become a better one.

    Good post, Lori! Just keep on being yourself!

  6. AKM Miles says:

    I’m in the same boat. I, like you, am thankful for online friends, and a few around here that I trust with the knowledge. I did finally tell all the fam and though none read it, they support me verbally. Mom has always loved the idea.

    Really good post. I enjoyed reading it. ***love is love*** AKM

  7. Lori Toland says:

    Thank you for commenting! I’m really thankful my husband and bff support me so much and many of the commenters on this post are among the friends I count in my online support group. You guys are so awesome.

    And yes, love is love is love. :)

  8. Kathy B says:

    I appreciate that you write m/m fiction even if you aren’t able to “come out of the closet” as gay author. I’m not an author, but as a reader, I find, that I, too, have to be very selective in revealing my love of gay romances. My family knows and a very few “real” life friends. I am grateful for my fellow online readers I have discovered that share my passion!

  9. Chelsea B. says:

    I have never read a m/m novel, but I have heard they are very good and I will try one! Thanks for sharing!

  10. Sarah Madison says:

    Ah, this sounds very familiar to me. There are very few people in real life who know of my writing–I live and work in a conservative community–coming out as an author of M/M romance could have serious implications on my ability to work locally. After having a long-time friend drop me like a rock on discovering the nature of my writing, I’ve learned to be very careful in who I share this information with. I’m fortunate to have such a strong online community of friends and supporters.

    I think in some ways it gives me a little insight into the lives of the men I write about–and how they can’t always be open about who they want to be–or fear they might be rejected by friends, family, and colleagues.

    This is just one of the dynamics that draws me to writing stories about men falling in love with each other. ;-)

  11. Victoria Blisse says:

    Thanks for stopping by with such a great post, Lori! Love IS love. I very much believe that. :)

  12. Brandi says:

    I just purchased this book today and am looking forward to reading it later this week after I catch up on some things. Congrats on the new release and great post :)


  13. Pender Mackie says:

    Hi Lori, I have the same issues so I know what it’s like to have something exciting happen as an author and no one to tell it to. :) I’m very appeciative of my online friends, both readers and other authors.
    Best of luck with “Trust in Me.” It sounds like a good read.

  14. Lori Toland says:

    Thanks everyone! :)

  15. Emily Wells says:

    I’m kinda in the same boat. Except my rents know I write, but they don’t know that I write M/M. So I have to show them old stuff I wrote or stuff my friends wrote and said I could use so that they don’t find out, since it wouldn’t go well if they found out. So I had to turn to my online friends as well, and I’ve met so many amazing authors and editors like myself. And who doesn’t love a happy ending, finding Prince Charming?

    Anyways, can’t wait to read your new book. It sounds interesting!!

  16. Mary Preston says:

    I can’t believe no one knows you write – apart from a few. WOW!! What a secret to have. I agree about the beauty of love.

  17. SarahM says:

    Sounds like a great read and I love the cover :-)

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