24th September 2010 - Friends Friday - 4 Comments

Friends Friday – Keta Diablo on Love.


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Erotic Love

Love Is In Air . . .

“If spring came but once a century instead of once a year, or burst forth with the sound of an earthquake and not in silence, what wonder and expectation there would be in all hearts to behold the miraculous change. ” ~Henry Wadsworth Longfellow~

C.S. Lewis in his book THE FOUR LOVES speaks to four different kinds of love. Let’s see how they are categorised by Lewis.


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“Affection: Affection is fondness through familiarity, especially between family members or people who have otherwise found themselves together by chance. It is described as the most natural, emotive, and widely diffused of loves: natural in that it is present without coercion; emotive because it is the result of fondness due to familiarity; and most widely diffused because it pays the least attention to those characteristics deemed “valuable” or worthy of love and, as a result, is able to transcend most discriminating factors. Ironically, its strength, however, is what makes it vulnerable. Affection has the appearance of being “built-in” or “ready made”, says Lewis, and as a result people come to expect, even to demand, its presence—irrespective of their behavior and its natural consequences.”


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“Friendship: Friendship, a strong bond existing between people who share a common interest or activity. Lewis explicitly says that his definition of friendship is narrower than mere companionship: friendship in his sense only exists if there is something for the friendship to be “about”. He calls Companionship or Clubbableness a matrix for friendship, as friendship can rise in the context of both. Friendship is the least natural of loves, states Lewis; i.e., it is not biologically necessary to progeny like either affection (e.g., rearing a child), eros (e.g., creating a child), or charity (e.g., providing for a child). It has the least association with impulse or emotion. In spite of these characteristics, it was the belief of the ancients, (and Lewis himself), that it was the most admirable of loves because it looked not at the beloved (like eros), but towards that “about”—that thing because of which the relationship was formed. This freed the participants in this friendship from self-consciousness.”

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“Charity: Charity is the love that brings forth caring regardless of circumstance. Lewis recognizes this as the greatest of loves, and sees it as a specifically Christian virtue. The chapter on the subject focuses on the need of subordinating the natural loves to the love of God, who is full of charitable love. Lewis states that “He is so full, in fact, that it overflows, and He can’t help but love us.” Lewis compares love with a garden, charity with the gardening utensils, the lover as the gardener, and God as the elements of nature. God’s love and guidance act on our natural love (that cannot remain what it is by itself) as the sun and rain act on a garden: without either, the object (metaphorically the garden; realistically love itself) would cease to be beautiful or worthy. Lewis warns that those who exhibit charity must constantly check themselves that they do not flaunt—and thereby warp—this love.”

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“Eros: EROS is love in the sense of ‘being in love’. This is distinct from sexuality, which Lewis calls VENUS, although he does spend time discussing sexual activity and its spiritual significance in both a pagan and a Christian sense. He identifies eros as indifferent. This is good because it promotes appreciation of the beloved regardless of any pleasure that can be obtained from them. It can be bad, however, because this blind devotion has been at the root of many of history’s most abominable tragedies. In keeping with his warning that “love begins to be a demon the moment it begins to be a god”, he warns against the danger of elevating eros to the status of a god.”

Ah, Eros, the “sense of being in love”. For centuries, men have fought wars over love, i.e. Helen of Troy, the woman whose face launched a thousand ships. And what about the scandalous love triangles between King Arthur, Guenevere and Lancelot, or Anthony, Cleopatra and Caesar?

Here’s hoping you find bundles of love in your world, whether it’s formed on friendship, charity, affection or the most potent of all, EROS.

Namaste, Keta Diablo

Author Web site Keta’s Haunt: http://www.ketadiablo.com

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Keta writes erotic romance and gay fiction for Decadent Publishing, Noble Romance, Amber Quill Press and Phaze Publishing.

Please follow her erotic romance blog: Keta’s Keep, http://ketaskeep.blogspot.com

Thanks Keta, what an interesting blog, I hope you’ll come back again soon!

4 responses to “Friends Friday – Keta Diablo on Love.”

  1. Keta Diablo says:

    Hi there Victoria (across the ocean),

    Thanks so much for hosting me on your blog. I love the colors!

    Ah, yes, love isn’t it grand? Hope whoever stops by enjoys my post.

    Have a great weekend everyone. I believe Victoria will soon be visiting my blog, so drop in and visit, http://ketaskeep.blogspot.com

    Keta

  2. Brita Addams says:

    Keta and Victoria,

    What a lovely post. I’m so glad I am one of those lucky women in the world who found her Prince Charming and still has him (mumble, mumble) years later.

    Love and romance is grand.

    Victoria, you have a beautiful blog. I’d love to come visit sometime.

    Keta, as always, you are wonderful. Folks, you want to read Where The Rain Is Made and everything else you can get your hands on written by this fabulous author. Believe me, you will be happy you did.

    Luv to you,
    Brita

  3. Victoria Blisse says:

    Keta -it’s a pleasure to have you here! I’m glad you like the decor, I do too. My husband is an amazing website designer!

    Brita -you’d be more than welcome to come visit!

  4. Maverick says:

    Found this on Yahoo and I’m glad I did.

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