image: Lounging Woman by Derick Van Ness
Yo, Victoria! Nice pad you’ve got here – thanks for letting me crash it for a while :D
Right, I am here to throw some random chatter about the place. Today’s chatter is quite random, but also quite apt for a few of us ‘eroticists of late.
To go public or to remain faceless, that is the question.
So many people within the world of erotica face this question and it’s a question that I’ve been battling with myself over recent weeks. Do you tell The Mother (yes) and The Father (hell nooo!)? Do you tell The Neighbour or The Vicar? The Friends? The Family?
I’ve been blessed in this department. Some of you may have heard about my unintentional ‘outing’ to The Mother a few months ago (read it here if you missed it) and despite my initial panic, she has been absolutely fantastic when it comes to my writing. So much so, that she’s now outed me to her best buds, which makes visiting slightly awkward for me, but what the heck! My partner knows (obviously, as I stole his name for the job), my soon to be brother and sister-in law know, most of my friends now know too and every single one of them has been fantastic. Not a hint of negativity anywhere.
All this positivity could kill a girl, but I used it to take me to the next step – a photo shoot with a world renowned photographer (details to appear on my blog soon). I understand from initial chatterings with this cheery chappie that his project on British female writers of erotica may very well appear in national press at some stage so, after running it quickly past The Boy and The Mother to get their okay, I agreed to meet him for a bit of a public shoot in my local boozer. I know, I know, I am all class!
I’m now beyond caring too much about whether people know about my work within erotica, but I also don’t shout about it to random people in the street. I’m a professional who is trying to further my career, both in and out of writing and as such I do worry whether being publically recognised as Miss Rebecca Bond will jeopardise my mainstream career progression. I do also worry about The Future In-Laws, for they do not know about this ‘other’ life. But at least if they see my face and read all about it in the national press, then I won’t have to tell them, right?! It could however, make for one very awkward wedding!